Waiting to Exhale

Hi, My name is Ebony Jean Duncan and I am a child of a recovering addict.

The news of Miss Whitney Houston was devastating on multiple accounts. Devastation to the music business, devastation to the black community, devastation to the female race, devastation to current and recovering addicts, devastation to the family, and devastation to her Child.

My decree for Miss Bobbi Christina is that she will continue to fight the battle towards her own freedom. That she will not accept the nurture or nature that has been set before her. That she will allow healing to take its course and that she will become better because of it. That she will re-define herself, her existence, her past, and even the future that has been predicted for her. Oh Miss Bobbi Christina, that you may become whole, fulfilled, happy, peaceful, prosperous, and great in your own right! May you fight the demons that have plagued you and will continue to attempt to choke the very life out of you. May you reach out and grab the blessings that are available to EVEN YOU and counteract every curse lurking to destroy you. I declare that you FIGHT!

So many times, as a child of an addict you become weary as a result of having to fight way before you even learn to stand. Not only having to fight for yourself but for the addict themselves. When presented with the opportunity to fight for your own freedom you feel as if there is no more fight left. The idea of fighting causes great anxiety as your fighting thus far as rendered no results. Who wants to fight a loosing battle!? I pray that a "second wind" comes that will give her the push she needs to continue fighting. That this fight will produce life and expectancy of great things to come. God blew breathe in you before and I declare that he do it again....Lord give her a second wind!Oh that the right people will be in her corner cheering her on as she will see dark days of gloom and hopelessness. That she will be patient with herself and take as many water breaks needed while deciding how to fight...the fight of her life. May she find faith in knowing that God himself will honor her steps and show her the grace, mercy, and the favor needed to be a part of the winning side. Oh, my dear that your latter will be greater than your past! What does it mean to win?! It simply means to never stop fighting and along the way many blessings will be revealed that will make the fight worthwhile. If you take my fight, then you have taken my life. Fight Christina Fight!!!! For you shall live, and not die!

This fight wont require the strength that you are use to having, but this fight requires hope that better days are ahead:). The weapons used to protect, shield, and cope during the roller coaster life of having a parent addict wont stand a chance in this fight. This fight will take surrender, vulnerability, and help from those around you. I am not asking you to be strong, I am asking you to hold on until you are strengthened. No longer do you have to be the strong one, the one that has it together, the one that doesnt feel but does, the one that smiles when your heart is filled with tears, the one that  makes "it" work, the one that fixes whats broke, the one that exists but never learns to live.


Lord restore the innocence of her youth. Give her a Second Wind....TO LIVE...... (again).

Waiting to Exhale.

As you do it for me, her, and so many others I say THANK YOU, believing that the battle is already won.

Hi, My name is Ebony Jean Duncan and I am a child of a recovering addict.