Act Like a Lady...Mend our Men

As promised my thoughts and theory on women acting like ladies, while thinking like men. I am a fan of Steve Harvey and I actually commend his effort in assisting women with getting on the "right foot" to improve their dating experiences. Dating can be a very tricky game of cat and mouse which causes me to resist the urge to think like a man. With all the dating literature out there, I must declare that there is no one size fit all concept. When you provide a 'rule book' for any population of people you run the risk of basic human relationships turning into a win/loose outcome. You begin to wire your mind and emotions to insure that you get them before they get you. Honestly, I am getting sick of the battle of the sexes culture among women and men anyway. We both have valuable roles to play without trying to figure out how to be two steps ahead of the other. While playing these childish 'I can do it better than you' dating games family units are suffering. Is it ok for a woman to act like a lady while thinking like a man...sure why not, if that is her true nature and will compliment her relationship. But the idea of a whole culture of women acting like ladies and thinking like men, is ludicrous (I still love you Steve)! No point intended, I am just not a big fan of ‘relational movements’ that cause either party to begin to sabotage the other.

So what would I like to see happen...Act like lady....Mend our Men. Women have become so bitter and discontent that having a guard up has caused them to be discontently alone.  We must be willing to heal the relationship between these two species. This will take someone willing to be open, and honest, and wear a cloak of compromise. Not settling....but compromise, as there is a major difference. In the midst of settling you lose who you are and compromise is being secure with who you are enough to give the stage to someone else. Oh that we may be behind the scenes building up our men so that when it’s show time we can pull back the curtains and allow him to shine. We have spent so much time priding ourselves on our ability to be both women and men at the same time that we have lost the connection to our better half. I am not saying get a man and turn him into your "project". But what I am saying is make healing deposits as you go along so that when your Boaz comes deposits would have been made and he will be willing and ready to give you all that you so rightfully deserve. As we make these deposits, we are building, and as we build they will stand and be prepared when the time is right to be a shade tree for that special lady. This is bigger than finding YOUR man, we must mend OUR men. As you do this, your sowing will not be in vain and while you are doing this your heart is being tenderized enough to receive him when he comes.

As ourselves become healed, when can make healing deposits through affirming, uplifting, encouraging...our men & when all comes full circle we can continue to Act like Ladies and let them Think like Men :).

Love yall!
~evenebony~