Daddy can you hear me?

Wednesdays WELLness

Daddy can you hear me?

I am nearly 30yrs old looking for a knee strong enough to bounce me. Bounce me, sing to me, and tell me how pretty I am. Tell me what a wonderful future lays ahead for your little girl. Tell me the secrets to friendships, relationships, and work affairs.  Tell me that theres no one like me, I am special, I am unique, I am a force to be reckoned with. Tell me I don’t have to compromise or settle but that I deserve the very best. Tell me that I have access to all the world offers and no good thing can be withheld from me. Tell me I am smart. Tell me I am talented and gifted. Tell me I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Tell me whosoever I allow in my circle is blessed because of it. Tell ME. Tell ME. Tell Me….Tell me I am loved.

Its been said that this is the season for LOVE. The season for proposals, weddings, vow renewals and new found adorations. With that comes the importance of insuring that one does not loose herself in the process. It is easy to become so in gulped in a new experience, a new feeling, a new person, while neglecting the very thing that kept you balanced to begin with….”YOU”. As you spend time with that special someone insure that you take the time to spend time with self: to reflect, to replenish, to evaluate, to celebrate, to laugh, to cry, to explore new feelings while identifying old ones, to remind yourself that you are the best thing that has ever happened to you. Thank God for giving you….YOU. Explore the person He has created, molded, set-apart for such a time as this. Listen to what your heart and mind is saying while being sensitive to your spirit. Don’t let the business of the day catch you slipping into a thoughtless routine….be sure to remain intentional and aware. You are gift, wrapped up so pretty with a nice little bow. There are many great things wrapped up inside. As you become vulnerable for love in this season and that lucky person learns what a prize you truly are be sure you are not surprised at what they find….as you should already know its there. Be sure they are affirming and confirming you and not solely providing you with something that if they were to walk away…you have nothing. May sure….you at least still have you! The relationship can only be as good to you as you are to yourself. So many times we hear people say that they lost themselves in the midst of it all. In any severed relationship you will lose some things but “yourself “should be the very last thing to go. Yes, you will knock some of the “I will nevers”, off your list. Yes, you will find yourself being dumb for love. Yes, you will have some regrets, doubts, and uncertainties. But with each learning experience continue to love and embrace the skin that you are in and make the necessary deposits to insure you are enjoying the ride J.

As an adult fatherless woman, you cant help but reflect on the absence of a man in your life as you open your heart to someone who makes you feel good. Factors concerning your ability/inability to be in a healthy relationship should be reflected upon during your quiet time. Not to be used as a crutch but to identify and appropriate so that healing may take place.

I am nearly 30yrs old looking for a knee strong enough to bounce me. Bounce me, sing to me, and tell me how pretty I am. Tell me what a wonderful future lays ahead for your little girl. Tell me the secrets to friendships, relationships, and work affairs.  Tell me that theres no one like me, I am special, I am unique, I am a force to be reckoned with…..SO I SIT DOWN, CALL MYSELF OVER, SIT ME DOWN ON MY KNEE AND TELL ME: that theres no one like me, I am special, I am unique, I am a force to be reckoned with. I don’t have to compromise or settle but that I deserve the very best.  I have access to all the world offers and no good thing can be withheld from me. I am smart. I am talented and gifted. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Whosoever I allow in my circle is blessed because of it. Tell ME. Tell ME. Tell Me….I am indeed loved, by ME. As I sit on my knew I  chuckle and say: “Its always good to be able to carry your own weight”. I crack myself up sometimes…bwahhhaaa.

                I thank my sister for such a revelation and as you read this…I am learning to get back to me *wink*.

Until Next Time Ladies,

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