The moment He says he is a believer and proceeds to do more
than just kiss her…
The moment she
responds that she loves the Lord but is overtaken by her need to be more than
just held…
At that moment they have both spiritually shattered the probability
of them being just friends.
At that moment they have both spiritually shattered the
probability of them being even more than just friends.
So what are they?
They are stuck between the two trying to juggle this friend thing, this boo thing, this friend thing, this boo thing, this friend
thing, this boo thing…..
A brother in Christ of mine said something to me that I
continue to ponder on. He said that if a true man of God cant contain himself
in sexual matters…this shows his inability or unwillingness to lead his family
into TRUTH. If he does not stand, then who will? I use to laugh all the time
when I would say there would be no premarital sex if men wouldn’t pursue such
an act.lol. Now this is a bit extreme while realizing the same would be true if
women would just say no.lol.
The reality is as sexually involved believers there will be
no real turn in the tide until individuals get it deep down inside that they
want to honor God with their bodies at all cost. So how can we love God so much
yet love sex outside of the covenant the He ordained. The spirit is indeed
willing, while the flesh is weak…
My spiritual prayer is that I meet a guy who loves God so
much that his containment will bring my flesh under subjection, leaving us both
waiting until the time is right. Could you imagine sitting so close to him that
every pulsation is secretly raging out of control as your flesh really wants
him to put you out of your misery but his spirit wont budge; with the understanding
that hes not gay or already banging other women? lol. Sounds like torture, but
the glory that follows Im sure cant be compared J.
This is a reality for so many but no one really talks about
the actual process, they just talk about the expectation.
It’s the reality of most believing women to want more but
settle for less as the immediate gratification quenches the thirst of her eternal
drought of longing. There is no natural “tool” long enough to scratch the spiritual
love itch that she really has; yet understanding that that tool does have the
power to weaken her love signal leaving her to believe this is as good as it
gets for now or better yet this is what I prefer :/
I don’t have an answer or magic revelation but as a social worker
I am aware that in order to tackle an epidemic the conversation must be had….
There have been many spiritual theories, shifts of personal
blame, and natural circumstances that explain why sex before marriage is a
reality for those of us practicing our faith and I agree with most of them J.
The good news is...even when we put the cart before the horse redemption is yet available as our hearts cry out for more all the while HE is eager to complete the puzzle.
The good news is...even when we put the cart before the horse redemption is yet available as our hearts cry out for more all the while HE is eager to complete the puzzle.
‘Complex yet Conquerable’ is my final thought.
I believe their is a greater need in the house of God period, for believers to learn not only about the theory of God, which teaches who God is, and why, we believe in him, as a result, we have to do a better job showing how to apply Godly living to our everyday lives, yes! However, I do have to add that my husband and I dated, went to dinner and went to see many movies together. For my husband was raised up as a minister's child. I was raised to know to believe in God and to keep all his commandments. My husband made advances on me, just as I made advances on him. We were indeed to believers caught up in the attraction of each others looks, personality, time, and lust that we called intimacy. However, it did not change the fact that we were still saved! I did not consider my husband making a move on me as him having a lack of self control. I looked at him as I should have, in my opinion, as a good man with a weakness and he looked at me, I only can only assume, as a good women with needs. It was our/his actions after we made the advances that made me fall into love with my husband. How he not only talked about why we were wrong but, how we both needed to make an effort to correct our actions, get married or limit our time with one another. It was only in the advances that I learned that he was my husband. Could we have learned differently? Maybe, maybe not. God saw fit and God ordained the us to be together as we grew in God together and made mistakes together. I just consider myself blessed that I found a man that was not only sitting among the theology of God but yield to the application of God's way of daily living for his children.
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