Don't get over it, Love yourself through it.

So many times life experiences send us into packing our bags never wanting to return.
While we must be honest with ourselves in knowing that when we leave the residue remains.

The more time goes by and you function "with it" you claim youre over it, you claim full healing has manifested, you claim you are walking in an overflow of forgiveness until you sit still and like a mighty rush of wind "it" overtakes you as you sit numbly crying and declaring 'I should be over this by now".

Certain events alter who we are and impact the course of our lives. With the smell of a certain cologne you are reminded, with a drive down a certain street we are reminded, in the midst of conversations seeds of "remember whens" are being deposited, while eating your favorite dish of food symbolism is being digested, as your favorite song plays you are mesmerized and taken to a place of the past. With all these encounters we just live life as if we are "over it".

We go day in and day out with these experiences presenting themselves as we become like a fly on the wall...after all we are 'over it'. The lesson I am learning and would like to share will you: Don't attempt to get over it, Love yourself through it.

It is very despairing to expect one to "get over it" "Getting over it" is asking you to ignore it, its asking you to pretend it didn't happen, its asking you to live defeated, to not look courage in the face, to not take life by the horns and declare I will be better because of it.

A moment of truth: the Golden rule of grief and loss is that you NEVER get over it but you can learn to live with it. You shall live with it and not die in it...that is VICTORY!

In times of uncertainty, when you're just not feeling like yourself I encourage you to wrap your arms around yourself and say "I am sorry that happened and I know it hurts", stroke your hair and say "Cry baby, Cry, look in the mirror and say "You are beautiful and worth every promise that shall follow 'this'", Buy yourself a rose and smell its distinctiveness while smiling and dreaming of a better tomorrow, Cook yourself a meal by candlelight with the best of china and declare 'because I made it through, cheers to me'.

I want me, I want you, to not circle the mountain of "getting over it" but climb the mountain of "loving myself, ourselves through it.

Until Next time,
Draw from here, Drink from here, Quench your souls thirst here
~EvenEbony~